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Saturday, Jan 25, 2020 13:15 [IST]

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In less than two months from now, students graduating from school will be dealing with more stress than usual as they prepare to get admission into top colleges in the country. The entire admission process starting with the results of both Class X and Class XII boards and filling admission forms to their dream colleges is one of the most significant milestone in a child’s life. But what happens when your child does not make it into the college of his or her dreams?
Starting college can be stressful. High school graduates are often frustrated by decisions they made in senior year and looking back on their earlier choices can bring students either a wave of relief or disappointment.
The university experience has changed too. The focus has shifted from fun and study to employability and study, with students grabbing every possible opportunity to gain work experience and build networks.
According to experts, if you are not too careful, your children might be heading down a rabbit hole, a downward spiral. Psychologists say the key lies in parents preparing their wards well in advance and adjusting their own attitudes to success and failure.
It’s all about the attitude and parents just need to keep reminding their child that it does not matter what college or what percentage they get in their exams. It will also help to reach out to the community to ensure the child remains well-rounded and well informed.
Some of the tips for parents would be going online and finding successful stories of people who were knocked down early in life and still became great. Also, talking to the people around them and seeking out stories and ideas about what they could do in their lives, would help the children. The key is to expand their world, and who can do better than parents?
However, if parents are not paying attention to their child’s stress levels, chances are the child might go into depression, leading to suicidal tendencies. Academic stress is something that is prevalent in a child’s life throughout his or schooling, but when it comes to getting admission into the right college, it becomes more serious because it could potentially determine the rest of their career. But children have to be taught that if they don’t get into, say, an IIT, their lives are not destroyed.
We have a lot to blame our mindsets for this undue stress. The mentality where people perceive your success based on education needs to change in India. There is a trend where parents prepare their children completely when it comes to their academics but they forget to give them the tools they need to survive emotionally. They need to tell their children that they will always be there for them and figure out their future careers together and a bad result is not the end of the world. In fact, fostering a sense of hopelessness that’s tied to academic success and failure is one of the main reasons for suicides among students. Parents ought to be able to understand what the symptoms of suicide. If a child says he or she is too lonely or feeling too sad, then immediately take them for counselling. Many times when children come for counselling, they say that they have expressed suicidal thoughts to their friends and parents but no one was really listening, experts say. Parents can use a variety of simple, constructive techniques to help even the most anxious children develop resilience to stress. It starts with listening to them.

Sikkim at a Glance

  • Area: 7096 Sq Kms
  • Capital: Gangtok
  • Altitude: 5,840 ft
  • Population: 6.10 Lakhs
  • Topography: Hilly terrain elevation from 600 to over 28,509 ft above sea level
  • Climate:
  • Summer: Min- 13°C - Max 21°C
  • Winter: Min- 0.48°C - Max 13°C
  • Rainfall: 325 cms per annum
  • Language Spoken: Nepali, Bhutia, Lepcha, Tibetan, English, Hindi